A look at popular wedding customs in Hindu wedding

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The wedding customs are an essential part of every wedding. It is what that makes the ceremony unique and exciting. Some of these customs are followed from ages and people don’t know how they originated. These customs are different for every religion. Like the customs that are followed in Hindus marriage are entirely different from Jain, Muslim, or a Christian marriage. It is important that couple should respect and follow the custom religiously as it is said that wedding is an extension of etiquettes and customs. One thing that is common among all is that they strengthen the institution of marriage. Let us take a look at some of the prevailing customs in a Hindu wedding. Some of these are changed as per convenience.

Hindu Wedding Custom

Change of first name of bride:

Changing the name of bride is quite prevalent in Hindu communities. The reason for the change of name can be many. Generally, the first name is changed to make the horoscope compatible. Especially in north India the horoscope are matched according to name. Some families change the name of bride after the wedding to give her belongingness to the new family.

Change of surname of bride:

The bride’s surname changes after the wedding. She takes the surname of her husband. This custom is bit different in southern India, here the bride takes the first name of her husband as her surname.  The aim of both these customs is make the new bride part of the family.

Wedding Expenses:

Hindu Wedding

Its girl’s side that generally bears all the expenses of wedding but with the changing time even the groom side is seen pulling up resources, so the entire burden is not on one side.  It is a welcome change. One step ahead is the new generation, they don’t allow the parents to take up the expenses but they plan out everything by themselves.

Exchanging of gifts:

Exchanging of wedding gifts is an important part of Indian culture. The gifts are selected carefully. It brings both the families closers and establishes a strong bond. Although, getting a gift that everybody likes is a tough task, so mostly the families make someone a mediator who is known to both sides; this way the know about the preference. The most common gifts are dress material.

Engagement rings:

Engagement ring is seen as the acceptance of marriage. Once the wedding is fixed the engagement ceremony takes place. It generally is a family affair attended by close relatives & friends from both sides.   The groom slides the beautiful engagement ring into the ring finger of the fiancée. The ring is generally of gold, platinum or diamond.

Exchange of Invitation:

In some communities the first invite is given to God that they believe in then the wedding invitation cards are exchanged between two families. The exchange of invitation is one custom that is vastly followed in southern states like Kerala.

These are just a few of the interesting customs followed in Hindu wedding.

Top 6 Indian Wedding Traditions

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The Indian wedding is popular around the world because of its unique customs. The customs and rituals give wedding a strong and unbreakable bond. The marriages are conducted according to the norms laid in the Vedas. The marriage in another community is simply considered a bond between two individual but in Indian society it is bond between two families.  It brings two families together and they share warm relation of love & respect for a lifetime. As a result there are numerous interesting customs associated with a traditional Hindu wedding ceremony. The traditions are the base of marital institution. It strengthens the bond between the couples.

1 Kanyadaan

Kanyadan

It is one of the most valued Hindu wedding rituals. According to this the father of the bride hands over his daughter’s hand to the groom. This is emotional as well as moment of pride for the bride’s father. It is believed that sacred ceremonies purify all the sins. During the ritual ladies sings traditional songs.

2 Sindoor:

Just  after the Kanayadan ritual, the sindoor ritual take place. “Sindoor’ is artificial vermillion colored powdered put by the married women on the parting line of hair known as “Maang in Hindi.  It is first applied in the Maang by the groom during the wedding ceremony.

3 Mangalsutra:

Mangal Sutra

The word “Mangalsutra” is an amalgamation of two words Mangal means “auspicious” and Sutra means “thread”.  It is a scared necklace that the groom ties around his bride’s neck. This symbolizes that from this point onwards that she is married woman. It is similar to the wedding ring worn by married ladies in western culture. Apart from this nose ring, toe ring, colorful bangles and kumkum are the others thing that denotes that the women is married.

4 Seven Vows:

The marriage in Indian community is considered bond for seven births. The couples take seven vows around the holy fire. These vows are pillars of the wedding. Love, commitment, prosperity, friendship, health and progeny strongly bind the relationship. With every round the fire, the couple take one vow, after the seventh vow they become a husband & wife.

5 Solah Shringar:

Solah Shrigar means sixteen adornments. It is basically steps for beatification of the bride. It covers her from head to toe. It includes a detailed guideline for makeup, ornaments and accessories. This ritual is followed from ages and is passed from one generation to another. It celebrates and acknowledges the divinity and beauty of women. It is believed that certain embellishments and jewelry enhance the beauty of the bride. According to Hindu mythology these Shrigars symbolizes the sixteen phases of moon.

 Solah Shringar

6 Step Wedding Barat

Barat is heart of a wedding, in this ceremony the groom’s together with friends and relatives proceed to wedding venue. They ride a decorated horse or elephant, the rest of procession proceed slowly along with him dancing and singing.  Even if you look at the wedding invitation card you will see happily dancing people following the groom.

Unveiling the mystery of Hindu wedding cards

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The Hindu religion is very much different from the other religions of the world in many aspects. The most unique aspect as per me is the Hindu marriages which are a symbol of rich Indian culture, tradition and heritage. Hindu marriages have always been considered one of the most important aspects in life and are remembered for the lifetime. With preparations starting months before the wedding event, everything associated with the marriage ceremony is prepared with ultimate delicacy be it the selection of wedding venue or be it a basic thing like the selection of a wedding card.

Hindu Wedding Cards

The grand affair of Hindu wedding ceremony starts with printing of wedding cards. Though in the ancient times, sending invitation card was not a practice and was popular only among nobilities, but in the modern context, it is considered as etiquette. Also known as “Patrika”, the wedding cards, is a mode to inform the beloved ones with the good news as well as sends warm solicitation of their presence at the wedding. The cards are as vivid and colorful as the Hindu religion is. According to Hindu religion, guests are considered next to God; hence no stone is left unturned to honor the guests.

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One would always find that Hindu wedding cards are colorful, luxurious and embellished with stones, zaris, tassels and sometimes even golden or silver coin, as according to the Hindu religion it signifies abundance, fertility and happiness. Though there are plenty of eye catching designs and layouts, the traditional yet royal scroll design is still in vogue. With increasing race to stay distinct, the wedding cards can even be personalized with imaginative designs, colors and textures. The unique design and signature look can be matched according to the wedding theme, and will ensure that the very first aspect of the wedding boosts uniqueness.

Selecting a wedding card has never been an easy task as there will always remain a difference of opinions, likings and disliking in your family. Also, finding a card that suits your culture, profession, and theme of your wedding is not an easy task. However, there are a number of ways to make the research part simple and easy. Instead of selecting any card randomly, do your homework well, because a moderate wedding card can be a cause of disappointment for the life time.

There are some very useful tips through which marriage card selection can be made very easy and a charismatic outcome is assured. The first step in the selection of an exciting and innovative card is a proper research. For this, you can first take the opinion of all who matter like your family members, and then you can go through the internet, where many wedding planning portals are offering free consultations for the designing, theme and layout of the card. There, you can even order for a free sample card before confirming your order, to make sure you are getting what you had ordered for. Any design and layout can be fully customized as per your liking and preferences.

Timeless wedding headgears worn by Indian bridegrooms

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Wedding is such an occasion wherein the bride and the groom are the center of the attraction. Generally, they strive to look unique by opting for exquisite attires, beautiful and big jewelry pieces, or by opting for anything that helps them in looking outstanding. Apart from beautiful attires, there are many ways through which uniqueness can be achieved. Selecting a fascinating wedding headgear or Shehra is among those effective ways that can make the bride and the groom appear stand apart from the rest of the crowd. For the brides, a headgear is basically is in the form of a jewelry piece, headband or a flower. Even on the wedding invitation, the bride and groom symbol is there in which they are dressed in the traditional wedding attire in which the groom has a Shehra on his head.

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Wedding headgear for men, Shehra is also widely known as pagari or saafa. In English language, it is known as Turban. The credit of an origin of Saafa goes to a royal state of India called Rajasthan. Saafas refer to those turbans that are made from a colorful strip of a cloth. The culture of tying Saafa has almost become an inherent part of the Indian weddings and it is considered as one of the most essential accessory for the Groom. Most of the time, a kalgi, that is in the form of a little broach, is tucked on the turban from its front side. It generally accompanies feather with it.

Rajasthani turbans are knows for offering a royal appeal to its wearer. It is known to the all, that during olden time; kings would wear turbans that would also feature a kalgi in it. Generally, a kalgi would include precious stones and a feather and by looking at the richness of it, it was easy to make out that who is the king. However, turbans are still the inherent element of the attires of the traditional village men. It is really surprising to know that round about thousand varied types and styles of turbans do exist in Rajasthan. The diverse styles differ from one region to another and from one caste to another. Generally, the width of a pagari is 9 inch width and its length is 52 feet. On the contrary, Saafa is of small length and it is broader.

Earlier, the majority of the people knew an art of tying turban but due to the modernization, this art is now gradually dying. It is generally the older generation that ties the turbans during weddings or some expert is being called to tie the turban to the groom. These experts are known as pagribands. A falguniya turban featuring red or white color is worn during spring season. The dotted chunri or bright colors indicates an auspicious occasion like marriage or birth of a child. A panchrangi turban features five different colors and is worn by the rajputs mainly that too of Jodhpur region. A lahariya turban is worn during the season of rains. Zari turban is created out of the rich-textured cloth like silk and Zari and is worn by the groom during the formal occasion of marriage. According to the colors as well, the turbans differ from one and another. For an instance, bright colors like pink, green, red, etc are worn during auspicious occasions and during festivals. On the contrary, dull colors like maroon, khaki, etc are worn during distressing occasions.

Role of Pundita as holy emissary in Indian Wedding

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Indian Weddings are a grand affair and comprises of many rituals. These rituals are performed in the presence of pundit and he is the one who directs the families how all rituals are to be performed. Pundit plays a crucial role as a wedding cannot happen without him. Right from finding the auspicious day for wedding to finalizing the wedding cards to the bidai, the pundit is there as the emissary of god and goddesses. He recites all the hymns and mantras which are necessary for the wedding. The recitation of these is considered auspicious and the presence of the pundit is itself an auspicious thing. Indian Weddings are supposed to be witnessed and presided by gods and goddesses and pundit is believed to be the purest soul with all the knowledge of Vedas who appeases Gods by various offerings and mantras so that the wedding goes on without any hindrance.

Wedding Pandit

The whole process of wedding begins with a Pundit; he is the one who matches the horoscopes of bride and groom and then decides an auspicious day for the wedding to happen. He initiates all the ceremonies and also tells everything to the families. Indians believe in Mahurat and every ritual is performed according to the Mahurat fixed by the pundit. No one except him has the knowledge to tell about the various rituals. Even the family asks for the advice of Pundit before taking any decision. The importance of him can be seen in daily lives too when people visit temples and give their offerings to the gods and goddesses through him. It is he who is considered the intermediate between gods and human beings. He excels in the knowledge of Vedas and that sets him apart from the crowd. The origin is also important as the one who is born to Pundit family can become a pundit and not the others. The pundit requires to have a sound knowledge of Sanskrit too as almost all mantras are in this language.

It is the he who submits the wedding cards to gods and goddesses and then these are sent out to the guests. When the wedding ceremony takes place pundit prepares the vedi or the holy place where the Pheras would take place and performs all the rituals for a wedding. He explains the meaning of marriage to the bride and groom and all the family members. The responsibilities and duties that come after when gets married is also explained and is seriously listened too. A pundit is given clothes and money that is called Dakshina and it is believed that if the pundit is satisfied gods too are satisfied. Even the most modern families perform the wedding ceremony and cannot think of abstaining from the directions given by the pundit. The presence of a pundit is essential for all rituals and pujas related to Wedding, child birth, new house, engagements and even death. The society cannot think of surviving without him. Their presence and existence is important for sustaining the one cannot imagine an Indian society without them. Puja is not perfect unless performed by a pundit

Hindu Customs Evergreen Since Ages

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Unity in Diversity

Hindu Marriage Invitaions
Hindu Marriage Invitaions

Each religion has its own customs and that is what makes it different from other. They have their own set of beliefs and rituals which accentuate and sustain life; Hinduism is the largest religion in India. Hindu rituals and customs are not very different from other religions still they have characteristics of their own. Specially, despite of regional variations in some ritual the Hindu marriage rituals are the same. Right from the Ganesh puja to the sending of Hindu wedding cards to guests in a wedding, to the last rites all religious occasions are celebrated with much religious fervor.

Ganesh Puja: This is the most important and first step of each and every ritual or religious ceremony performed by Hindus. It is a belief that action would be successful only if it starts with the invocation of lord Ganesha.

Songs: Each ceremony is accompanied by songs which are considered auspicious and also adds the element of fun.

Putting Kumkum on forehead:

Puja Items

Puja Items


This is also an important ritual. No ceremony be it simple puja or a grand event like wedding is considered to be complete without Kumkum. It is also an auspicious symbol.

Wedding: 

Wedding Knife

Wedding Knife

Wedding is an important event in all religion and also holds an important place in Hindu religion as well. Wedding is a big ritual that comprises of various other rituals and is celebrated with full zest and vigor. Various ceremonies like shagun, sangeet, mehendi etc. are important ceremonies that precede wedding ceremony.

Holy Fire: Fire holds an important place in Hinduism. It is considered to be an important deity. All ceremonies are performed in the presence of fire. Festivals like Holi, Diwali all are celebrated by lighting of fire. Wedding is also considered to be complete when the bride and groom take seven rounds around the holy fire. The presence of fire is believed to remove all impurities and evil spirits.

Bells: ringing of bells is also an important custom in Hindu religion. All pujas are accompanied by sounds of bell and the vibrations are believed to purify all the surroundings also.

Touching of Feet: Elders are given respect by young by touching their feet. This is also an important custom that is observed by Hindus.

Name protocol: There is a protocol that has to be observed when addressing the elders. Each relation has its own name protocol and is followed strictly.

Gifts: Gifts hold an important place in Hindu religion and it is a custom to send gifts on important occasions like wedding, Holi and Diwali. After wedding whenever the girl visits her parents she takes sweet and also brings some gifts when she comes back to her in-laws place.

Mehendi: Putting mehendi on palm and feet is also an important custom in Hindu religion. Women and girls decorate their hands and feet with mehendi before every puja. Even boys apply mehendi on their hands at the time of their wedding. Puja is considered to be incomplete without mehendi.

Despite of modernization changing the world these customs and rituals have stayed on. Our forefathers followed these customs and the coming generations would no doubt be following them may be with some variations. These customs and rituals have become an integral part of all religions and act as their life and breath.